Praying for your husband

Prayer for your husband from head to toe. Pray for His Brain: Ask that God would keep it sharp and focused and that his thoughts would not be conformed to this world, but would be transformed and renewed by the power of God. (Romans 12:2 ) Pray for His Eyes: Ask that he would guard them diligently and would set no worthless thing before them. ( Psalm 101:3 ) Pray for His Ears: Ask that they’d be tuned to hear God’s still, small voice and that your husband would always remain attentive to the Holy Spirit’s promptings. (1 Thessalonians 5:19 ; Isaiah 30:9 ) Pray for His Mouth: Ask that no unwholesome talk would proceed from it, but only what is good for building others up. Pray that your husband would always and only speak the truth in love. ( Ephesians 4:15 , 29 ) Pray for His Heart: Ask that Christ would sit enthroned upon it, that your husband would love God with all his heart and soul and might, that he’d love his neighbor as himself. (Mark 12:30-31 ) Pray for his heart to remain soft toward you (Proverbs 5:18-19 ) and to be knitted to the hearts of his children. (Malachi 4:6 ) Pray for His Arms: Ask that God would strengthen them and make them firm. Pray that your husband would take delight in his labour and that God would bless the work of his hands. (Psalm 90:17 , Ecclesiastes 3:22 ) Pray for His Legs: Ask that God would give him strength and stamina, that your husband might run with endurance the race that is set before him, without growing weary or fainting along the way (Isaiah 40:31 ; Hebrews 12:1 ) Pray for His Feet: Ask that they’d be quick to flee from temptation, to turn away from evil, and to faithfully pursue wisdom, righteousness, peace, love, and truth. (2 Timothy 2:22 ; Psalm 34:14 ; Proverbs 4:5-7 ) So that’s the whole plan. It takes only a few minutes to cover your husband in prayer from head to toe. Can you imagine the benefits you both will reap if you’ll make it a habit to pray this way for your spouse every day?

25 keys to a successful marriage

The key to a successful marriage is putting your spouse’s needs ahead of your own. Here are 25 practical suggestions gleaned from 25 years of happy marriage. 1. Listen To be truly heard is the longing of every human heart, and your wife is no exception. It sounds simple, but listening can be harder than it seems with so many distractions around us and within us. Set aside some time every day to look into your wife’s eyes and really listen to what she has to say. You may be surprised at what you hear. ( James 1:19 , Matthew 11:15 ) 2. Communicate Don’t make her guess what you are thinking or feeling. 3. Sing Her Praises Shamelessly brag about her good qualities and quietly pray about her bad ones. Her reputation is your reputation. (Proverbs 31:28-29 ) 4. Pray For Her and With Her Praying on your wife’s behalf not only enlists the help of the Almighty, but also puts her and her needs at the forefront of your heart and mind, right where they belong. Praying alongside your wife will strengthen your relationship like nothing else. Studies show that couples who regularly pray together stay together, enjoying a 1% divorce rate compared to the usual rate of 50% or more. (Philippians 4:6 ; Matthew 18:19 ) 5. Value Her Individuality Your wife is wonderfully unique. Don’t compare her to your mom, or your ex-wife, or your old girlfriend. Your mom may make the best chocolate chip cookies in the world, but unfavorable comparisons won’t win you brownie points. 6. Put the Seat Down Perpetually raised toilet seats are a pet peeve of wives everywhere. And while you’re at it, tidy up a bit. A little consideration goes a long way. (Philippians 2:4 ) 7. Throw Your Dirty Clothes in the Hamper, It’s likely just a few steps from wherever you are dropping them anyway. Make this a habit, and it will let your wife know your don’t consider her your personal maid. 8. Turn Off the T.V. Lay aside the video games, pocket the iPhone, and shut off the computer, as well. It is staggering how many hours we waste gazing at some sort of screen instead of interacting with the real people in our lives. Consciously set limits on your tube-time, whatever form it takes. Use the time saved to invest in your marriage: take a walk with your wife or play a board game together instead. (Psalm 90:12 ) 9. Loosen the Purse Strings We all have to keep an eye on our budget, but an occasional splurge can be well worth it. Seemingly frivolous things like flowers, jewelry, and overpriced restaurants let her know that she is more valuable to you than a number in your bank account. 10. Practice Servant-Leadership All organizations have a hierarchy. It’s impossible to function without one, but being a leader isn’t the same as being a dictator. The best role model is Jesus Christ, not Joseph Stalin. Jesus washed his disciples feet and then died on their behalf. It’s a challenge to exercise authority while maintaining a spirit of humility, but that is what being a godly leader entails. (Matthew 20:28, Philippians 2:1-8 ; Mark 9:35 ) 11. Remember that Intimacy’s a Two-Way Street Unfortunately, men are notoriously selfish in the bedroom, yet are dumbfounded when their wives are less than enthusiastic in this arena. Make this area of your relationship as pleasurable for her as it is for you and it will pay huge dividends. It may mean washing the dishes or helping with the kids, so that she has energy left at the end of the day. It may mean cuddling and candlelight, so that she can relax and let the worries on her mind drift away. If you aren’t sure where to begin, just ask her, and then listen. ( 1 Corinthians 7:3 ) 12. Give Her Time to Herself Everyone needs an occasional break to rest and recharge, and this is especially important for a wife who is at home all day with young children. Yet it’s very easy to neglect this legitimate need unless you regularly and intentionally schedule time for it. (Luke 5:16 ) 13. Set Aside Couple Time Soak in the tub together each evening or go on a date night once a week — whatever gets the two of you alone on a regular basis. (Genesis 2:24-25 ) 14. Be Careful with Female Friendships We all have friends and colleagues of the opposite sex, but tread cautiously. Not all affairs are physical ones. Honouring your marriage vows means remaining faithful in thought and word as well as in deed. (Matthew 5:27-28 ) 15. Use Good Hygiene It is amazing how meticulous guys can be prior to marriage in their attempts to impress a girl, but once they walk down the aisle, all bets are off. Clean up a little; I promise it won’t kill you. 16. Limit the Gross Stuff Few women find burping and farting nearly as hilarious as the typical guy does. Good manners are always a win. ( Ephesians 5:4 ) 17. Be Patient In whatever way this applies to you and your situation, apply it. (1 Corinthians 13:4 , Proverbs 14:29 ) 18. Cherish Her Children A mother’s bond to her children runs immeasurably deep. When you invest time or energy in them, you are investing in her as well. Kindness to them counts as kindness to her. (Malachi 4:6 ) 19. Choose Her Over Hobbies and Buddies Invariably there will come times in your relationship when you will be forced to choose between your wife and something else that you enjoy. Always choose her. 20. Provide for Her Needs This is so much more than just putting food on the table. It is all-encompassing. Whether it is physical needs, emotional needs, spiritual needs, you name it — do your best to provide. Sometimes life’s circumstances hinder us in one area, but we can compensate in another area. Often the effort is as important as the outcome. (Galatians 6:2 ) 21. Dial Down the Anger Your caveman instincts are handy on the battlefield, but horrible for a happy home life. Every outburst or flare-up is a relationship setback. To go forward, the first step is to stop going backwards. Learn to control your temper or it will control you, your marriage, and every other aspect of your life. Just because your wife puts up with it and your co-workers tolerate it, doesn’t make your short fuse an asset. Do whatever it takes to gain victory in this all-important struggle that has haunted man since Cain slew Abel. (Ecclesiastes 7:9 , Ephesians 4:31 ) 22. Cut Out the Condescension If you have been blessed with a quick wit, you can either be the life of the party or a pain in the neck depending on the circumstances. Condescension is anger’s younger brother. It isn’t as loud or as dramatic, but it can be equally hurtful and all the more so for its subtlety. Lay off the snide remarks, the sarcasm, and the belittling. Speak to your wife in the same way that you would speak to a respected colleague. She is, after all, your partner in the most valuable investment of your life — your family.(Ephesians 4:29 , Colossians 3:19 ) 23. Actively Seek Your Wife’s Insights Value her input and give it a preferential place in your decision-making process. (Proverbs 19:20 ; 12:15 ) 24. Learn to Forgive Freely forgive your wife’s past, present, and future offenses. Forgiveness is at the heart of the gospel and at the heart of every meaningful relationship. (Ephesians 4:32 , Colossians 3:13 ) 25. Verbally Express Your Love There are lots of ways to show your love, but women still like to hear it spoken.